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McDreamy Mug Shot, WTF Ladies?

Published June 23, 2014 by bossymoksie

Ladies.

NO.

Just, no. Stop.

mcdreamy mugshot

More like McNightmare than McDreamy….

Calm it the fuck down. Step away from the mug shot and ‘Like” button. Get off your ass, and go meet some available, real life guy that doesn’t have a rap sheet of carrying weapons illegally and using them on people.

You are embarrassing yourselves right now.

I hate, HATE!, to say this but I am so Team Guys-Who-Complain-About-Women right now.

 

Link Lovin’: What I Love About Men

Published April 10, 2013 by bossymoksie

I know I like to talk alotta shit about mistakes guys make.

It’s funny.

Sometimes I wonder who has it worse in the dating game (not really) because some of us ladies can be pretty crazy.

But let me take a moment to talk about a few things that I love about men.

1-Shit talking for bonding.

I think it’s cute how guys bond with other guys usually by trash talking each other and talking shit. I also think it’s cute when they do it with women. Some women can’t handle this and their ego’s would prefer to be given praises and compliments all day and night. Which is also nice and boring.

2-Stepping up.

Guys have that bad rap of just following their penises and not thinking before acting. It’s hugely sexy when a guy steps up and does something that is right for someone else, or for the situation, even though he clearly wants to be a really really naughty boy. When you see that restraint it’s so sexy. I dunno why: it’s not about being a doormat, which is unattractive and boring, I think it has something to do with being a good leader, and capable of seeing the bigger picture. jmo.

When women step aside or make sacrifices, they may give monologues about it to anyone who will listen because we’re encouraged to share every fucking feeling. Guys not so much. There really is something to that strong silent type. Yum.

3-Action oriented.

Sure there are times I wish you bitches had thunk first (see above). But I admire the do, do, do. No matter how annoying or lame it may get sometimes.  It’s the best way to learn and make mistakes, and I know it’s not always easy.

4-Best Cosmetic Ever.

While us women tear ourselves apart and make a sport out of picking other women apart, men tend to focus on what they find to be good and beautiful about us.

No matter what great new expensive shoe you have on, or perfect hair day, or favorite lip gloss or mascara you may be rocking that day, they all have nothing on a guy telling you how gorge you look tonight. Ironically, most of us ladies use all that crap to get such compliments and ego boosts from men. It’s a vicious cycle; one I don’t mind playing in!

Maybe that why the cosmetic industry makes so much money!

5-Lastly I love that they have a weakness for me! 😉

I’ve Got 99 Problems, But Being a Bitch Ain’t One

Published February 4, 2013 by bossymoksie

I’ve got critics saying that I’m a goldigging narcissist. I’ve said that myself, genius, what kind of insights are those?

It’s like telling me that I have brown eyes or big boobs. I see all this when I look in the mirror. I know who and what I am. I love to look in the mirror a lot because I love what I see. And because I’m a narcissist. If you don’t like it, carry yo ass. There’s plenty of things to do on the internet. The world wide web is huge. Besides, they say it like it’s a bad thing.

i love haters

Hating is just a special way I’ve saying I love you, even though I don’t want to.

Hating is so high school. And a few anonymous commenters will never be able to compete with a 15 year old girl when it comes to haterade.

See, you thought high school was a place to learn your math, english, history and all that bullshit. No. High school is where you are socialized. You are being initiated by your peers and prepared for the real world on how to deal with people around you. It’s a rite of passage. So while boys initiated each other by giving each other wedgies, bragging about seeing boobies, or handing out black eyes, girls learned how to psychologically scar a bitch for life, inside and out. You learn where best to stick the shank, and when, even if it’s 2 years later, all while smiling at a frenemies face the whole time. Girl World is real. And I graduated with honors.

In junior high, I was easy going and cool with everyone. I was that wacky friend. And I was okay with that. I like having fun and a good time. It’s what I’m about. Then the puberty happened, and kids started acting crazy. And, yeah, puberty got me too. After that, suddenly I was the center of most people’s attention. Awesome. People either kissed my ass or were threatened by me. Everyone wanted me as a friend or a fuck. The drawback? I had to contend with behaviors from everyone’s insecurities and hang-ups. And who isn’t insecure at that age?

I had a BFF who I had known since the beginning of junior high. We did everything together. We went shopping together, we had slumber parties, we browsed magazines together, we dieted together, we tried to get classes together, we swore we would always be there for each other. This bitch. She sold me out to a boy she liked because she was afraid that he was more into me than her. She told him embarrassing things and talked shit about me behind my back to him. And she even tried to backhand compliment me TO MY FACE when this dude was around. I couldn’t believe it. All for the attention and approval for a  dude we barely knew. And she got him, eventually. I felt so betrayed. I cursed the Gods. I swore we would never be friends. I was really, really hurt. Just like I’m sure she was hurt when I stole that guy from her. Especially since all I had to do was talk to him on the phone a few times and she had stalked him, talked shit about me and given him blowjobs. Bitches needed to know that I am not the one.

queen bee

Queen Bee: it’s a dirty job but someone has to keep the others in line.

This is what I learned about haters. For once, it’s not really about me. I just represent something that makes them feel frustrated, insecure, or inferior about themselves or worldview. And that’s a personal problem. If they have self-esteem issues, then comes the haterade. What they don’t know is that they are serving up their own bullshit insecurities on a silver platter to the very thing that threatens them. ME. The bitch. So thanks. I’ll be having that with my lunch.

haterade for lunch

Haterade: It’s what’s for lunch. Tastes like chicken.

Also, now that I’m older and slightly wiser, I know that I don’t really have to get back at haters. They’re already miserable. You really can’t do something that they’re not already doing to themselves. So now I just sit back and laugh. Well, I try anyway. ; ) And carry on with my bad self. Doing well and feeling great is always the best revenge.

You can take the people out of high school, but you can’t take the high school out of some people.

If you’re having self-esteem problems I feel bad for you, son. I’ve got 99 problems but being a bitch ain’t one.

The Date Buildup and Expectations

Published January 26, 2013 by bossymoksie

So the day was set for my date with the Money Guy Funny Guy and we were texting everyday and talking on the phone every other day.

Can I say that I was already a little exhausted from that much contact? But hey, it was good convo with a possible great and lucrative future so I took it. A few nights before our date, the conversation turned sexual because, of course. He opens by asking me if I like sex which is a pretty dumb question because, who doesn’t?. He then asks me what things I like to do. Very smooth. I answered sexily, “Ooh. You know what I really, really, really like? It drives me so crazy.”

Then I dropped the sexy and said, “I like dates. Lots and lots of dates.” Which made him laugh.

He then informs me that he had planned a 6 hour extravaganza for our first date. WTF? That’s a long time. And a girl has shit to do like get her hair done, nails, waxing, bragging to friends, writing about you in her blog, etc. It took some threatening prying, but I got him to reveal to me this super secret, day long date he had planned out in case it was something really cool or fun. It was an early dinner at this exclusive, reservations-only rooftop restaraunt, followed by drinks at the swanky hotel bar where we met, dessert at one of his favorite places, then back at his place for a movie and a foot massage for me. (Though I suspect he had some other things he wanted rubbed.) I told him he would get two hours and I would not be setting foot in his house. He was naturally disappointed and almost pleaded with me to spend the six hours with him. It’s not the end of the world, dude. I have to see how this date goes before I decide I want to spend SIX FUCKING HOURS straight with you. He was really stressed.

So a note to the ladies. Guys always let you know what they expect, whether they mean to or not. They are really simple. So far, he has told me what he thinks his value and strength is in a relationship: $$$$. (Even though in my opinion, his humor is probably worth a lot more. But apparently that’s not what he thinks and I’m gonna go with what he thinks.) Now he is telling me what he expects my value of this relationship to be. And that is underneath him. In so many words he’s basically saying I’ll give you money, let’s fuck. He is willing to pimp himself out. So I know what to expect. And it wouldn’t be the worst thing in the world to sleep with him. I am semi-physically attracted to him. And he could build more attraction during our date.

I know that when it comes to dating, sex is going to come up. That’s fine. But with this guy, the main two themes of our conversations was the money he has and likes to spend, and sex. I know what this guy is about and what he is looking for.  This is all he wants and thinks he needs in a relationship with a woman and I can faux respect that. But all this messaging and talking has shown me that he needs a lot of attention which could be a dealbreaker.

Being that I am a woman, and like to complicate things, I will ignore any feelings of red flags, hope that this will work to my advantage, and that it will magically turn into something I could work with and shop with later.

I mean, he is the one who is hooked on all this and wants to spend SIX HOURS together.

To be continued…

The Money Guy…I Mean the Funny Guy

Published January 25, 2013 by bossymoksie

So I was out the other night with the ladies. It was a really luxuriant and swanky place. Meaning $$$ for drinks and food with a good view of the surrounding buildings.

And we ran into some guys. Because they are everywhere. We wanted attention and we got it. I met a guy, who was kinda little, meaning skinny, and  I usually don’t like super skinny guys because they make me feel fat. But he was really funny. We had rapport. We had jokes. We had banter. We were buzzed. It seemed as though we had a few things in common. It was a great meet. And it didn’t hurt that our drinks were supplied by him and his friends. I didn’t even remember his name, but I remembered that it was a good time. And that I gave him my number. He and his friends eventually had to leave for a bachelor party, and they invited my friends and I but we declined. The bachelor party  was a pool party and not a stripper party, but did that mean we were gonna be the ‘entertainment’ in our bikinis in the pool? No thank you, I’m not that hard up for attention.

The next night, he calls me. He wants to hang out that same night! No thank you, I already have plans, but even if I didn’t, I still wouldn’t have went. I mean, I just saw you the night before. But I’m now glad that I got your name cleared up in my head. So we set something up for the following weekend. In the meantime, we talked on the phone and texted each other, where the conversation was still fun and a good time. He made sure to bring up his houses in Florida and Texas, and how he blinged out his former longterm girlfriend. I’m sure he said some other things about himself and past relationships but this is all I heard:

bag of money

Ka-ching!

kim k shoes

Shiiiiiiiiny…me wanty.

shiny diamond ring

A girl always misses a few new best friends…

Hmm...It's always a good time to update your wardrobe.

Hmm…It’s always a good time to update your wardrobe.

Note to men: He has told me, in so many words, that this is what he thinks he has of value to offer a woman. And I am not one to argue when it serves my purpose.

He is actually planning on going to his place in Florida soon since the weather is cold here and wants to take me. Sounds like a promising future to me!

But something tells me I’m gonna have to work for it (you always do!) It can’t really be this easy…

To be continued…

Last Post of 2012 with Shout Outs!

Published December 21, 2012 by bossymoksie

Video of me trying to give shout outs without getting distracted:

If video isn’t embedded in this post, then I don’t know how the fuck to do it.

**link jic: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eqGxytS1MB8

Social Kenny

Reema Chronicles

Eccentric Liz

SerenityLuv

Ego in the Sea

Unklehookd

How to Date Online

Bogs PUA

Silly G

DaterofBoys

Blame It on Disney

Phoebe’s Misadventures

This Imperfect Journey

Miss Tress

Tripp Advice

ArtGirl NYC

Carcarbone

EssaalRoc

Narcissist Blog

Online Dating Journal

Thanks for keeping blogging interesting!

Ask a Bitch!

Published November 3, 2012 by bossymoksie

Where I answer your questions about love, dating, and hairy situations (questions in bold):

**I am interrupting this weekly program for a moment to announce that this week I am posting a few questions from Kui Gee. He has been a regular commenter asking for advice. One of his questions were featured in a previous Ask A Bitch! post and he also comments on  Reema Chronicles blog.

Now he has a new situation that he asked in the comments section of this post of mine.

I am posting these to see if any of you ladies or gents have something to add for this chap who is trying to get it right. If you want to help, please put your opinion in the comments section! His questions are in bold.

girls playing games

hey i have question for u- the thing is i have been this girl, we could hook up and do romance but sex no and also when it cmes to feelings both of us we didn-t want to be clear.hwever the girl was push
ing me to reveal my feelings while she was unclear and i did not.she started flaking and i told her to go to hell with her bitch behaviour,i jus showed tht i didn,t care then one we started to talk we started
having fun,drinking and we had sex ,drunken Sex and tht was our first tym.now the thing after sex she is acting distant,cold and the thing is not lyc am simping its jus tht wen i met her am being social hwever she behaves otherwise so wats up with this behaviour presenting lyc am e one who wants her.and after we fucked she told me she was on her period does this have any effect on her current behaviour or jus being shit? sory for gramatical errors am a bit tipsy

Kui Gee! This better not be the same girl you asked about a few weeks ago! The same girl Reema and I told you to forget. If it is, you are a glutton for punishment. And if it’s not, you seem to have a pattern with girls.
Either way, she wants you to simp and tell your feelings and have you chase her because SHE WANTS TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT HERSELF. That’s why she wants to act like you are pursuing her and went after her.
She doesn’t trust you or feel comfortable enough to be open how she really feels. It doesn’t matter why or if it’s your fault or hers. What matters is that she doesn’t. But she wants your attention, that’s why she came after you when you sent her away. And then (finally) had sex with you. She’s pulling away afterwards hoping you will chase after her and start simping so she can have you under her thumb and feel good about herself. She also probably doesn’t feel good that she pulled such a desperate move on you.
The bottom line is she is playing games and you don’t need that shit. Step away from the moody, confused girl. Or accept this behavior won’t stop.

Nah its not the same girl.i appreciate ur advice. another thing is am at a university and am that guy who get easily noticed coz i dress fly.everybody looks up to me and my friends so girl knw that if they get into my circle they get sme status ie  why most of them wana play games to get me chasing ,trying to keep me around so that  they wil brag to their friends,feel gud but coz of game and some tips that am getting from you i never chase.

Then you know you got something to offer. You should chase. Men should do the chasing, but make sure you are chasing someone who’s worth it. Meaning someone who’s not playing games. As Reema likes to say, you should have 100% cooperation.lol  I would check out some of his back posts, do a search on his blog on cooperation and see what comes up, cuz I agree with him. You are worth more than mind games due to insecurity. Once a girl sees that (by your actions) if she really wants you and isn’t completely full of shit, she will stop playing games. Trust me, I would know. I only bullshit bullshitters because I know I can get away with it.

ok chasing never  works,even whengirls got insecurities they interpret it that u are not achallenge and it killsattraction.another is like chasingmakes u likeothers and desperate butmixing it up give attention hold itback .smone whois worthy is hard to come by cozgirls are alwaysplaying the gameso to win it i have to play it too.

I said chasing, not ‘simping’ or acting desperate.
And this explains your female drama. The only girls that chase guys are insecure, desperate, and needy for attention. So you have these girls that are interested in you, and want your attention and are willing to chase you for it. But then when you try to get closer they play games. Why? Because they probably feel that they are giving you too much, and you are not giving them want they want (to be chased and feel desired). So it’s a push pull- get your attention, and then not feel good that they are doing the chasing. That’s why the new one wants to make it seem like you are the one doing the chasing- her ego. And now that she’s slept with you she has to pull back to save ‘face’ even if it’s for her own ego.
You should initiate and then wait for her to reciprocrate. Honestly, one person shouldn’t be doing most of the work, whether you are courting or in a full on relationship.
It’s okay to let a girl know how you feel. It’s not okay when she takes advantage of it.

Girls play games because they want something but are told they can’t go after it directly. Not only that, they put themselves in more vulnerable positions. So they play games to protect themsleves and their egos.
Men play games too to protect themselves and their egos.

If you want my bitchy advice, please ask away in the comments section or email me at bossymoksie@gmail.com. I will answer in a future blog post.

If you don’t want my bitchy advice, you might get it anyway.

And don’t forget to add any of YOUR opinions as to what this guy should do to land a non game-playing girl!