Where I answer your questions about love, dating and tricky relationship situations (questions in bold):
I have been dating that coffee girl for about a month now. I really like her and enjoy spending time with her. When Valentine’s Day came up, she said she didn’t want to do anything and didn’t want anything which was cool because I didn’t want to do anything. We had a date that weekend and she asked if I was ready for ‘the talk’. I said I wasn’t and we had a good time that night. Then she was ignoring some of my texts and said she was busy the rest of the weekend. We still talk everyday and hang out on the weekend. I know we will have to do that talk but I’m not sure what to say. I like her a lot. It’s too early to be her boyfriend but I really like spending time with her. There’s no drama and she’s very chill. Very easy to hang with. But I don’t have that intense ‘gotta have her’ feeling. I don’t really miss her when she’s gone but I like it when she is around. It’s just too soon for me to judge where we are. Why do girls always want to talk about it?
Because you two fucked, didn’t you? That’s why. Guys like to close early
and ignore the fact that girls get attached when they have sex with someone they are dating. Girls give in to the moment, sometimes to reassure the guy that she is also into him, or because she’s just horny and it’s been awhile and ignore the fact that girls get attached when they have sex with someone they are dating. So there’s that.
And when Holidays come up, no matter how lame, we judge how you think of us by
what you give us how much you show your adoration for our wonderful, perfect selves. Since you did nothing, even though she ‘let you off the hook’ (that was just a trick ha!), she now knows your lukewarm feelings about her. Which you aptly describe in your question. If you don’t miss her when she’s not around, who cares if she ignores your texts then? Brush your shoulder off and don’t worry about it.
Oh, but if you want to address that talk, just say all the positive things and that you want to get to know her better. Leave out the ‘dont miss you when you’re not around bit’. May not go well.
If you want my bitchy advice, please ask away in the comments section or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I will answer in a future blog post.
If you don’t want my bitchy advice, you might get it anyway.