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I was on a second date with a girl I like. We went to have coffee because we didn’t want to go home and we sat outside. She was shivering so I offered her my jacket. She said no at first but eventually accepted my jacket. She asked me to hold her purse while she put it on and I told her no. She was surprised and asked if I was into machismo. I’m not I just think holding a girl’s purse is emasculating. She’s not my wife or anything. We talked about it (because she was so upset about it) and she admitted that she was more upset that I told her no more than anything. I helped her put my jacket on while she held her own purse. Was I being rude or was I standing up for my manhood?
A little of both. I guess we all have our boundaries that need to be set early on in a relationship
no matter how petty. It’s good that you stuck to what’s comfortable for you. But this was more of a logistical favor rather than putting your balls in a blender. Now, if she had asked you to hold her purse while walking two feet behind her and her friends as they shopped, then that would be another story. In the end, if you landed a third date with her, then it doesn’t matter, does it?
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