Where I answer your questions about love, dating, and hairy situations (questions in bold):
**I am interrupting this weekly program for a moment to announce that this week I am posting a few questions from Kui Gee. He has been a regular commenter asking for advice. One of his questions were featured in a previous Ask A Bitch! post and he also comments on Reema Chronicles blog.
Now he has a new situation that he asked in the comments section of this post of mine.
I am posting these to see if any of you ladies or gents have something to add for this chap who is trying to get it right. If you want to help, please put your opinion in the comments section! His questions are in bold.
hey i have question for u- the thing is i have been this girl, we could hook up and do romance but sex no and also when it cmes to feelings both of us we didn-t want to be clear.hwever the girl was push
ing me to reveal my feelings while she was unclear and i did not.she started flaking and i told her to go to hell with her bitch behaviour,i jus showed tht i didn,t care then one we started to talk we started
having fun,drinking and we had sex ,drunken Sex and tht was our first tym.now the thing after sex she is acting distant,cold and the thing is not lyc am simping its jus tht wen i met her am being social hwever she behaves otherwise so wats up with this behaviour presenting lyc am e one who wants her.and after we fucked she told me she was on her period does this have any effect on her current behaviour or jus being shit? sory for gramatical errors am a bit tipsy
Kui Gee! This better not be the same girl you asked about a few weeks ago! The same girl Reema and I told you to forget. If it is, you are a glutton for punishment. And if it’s not, you seem to have a pattern with girls.
Either way, she wants you to simp and tell your feelings and have you chase her because SHE WANTS TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT HERSELF. That’s why she wants to act like you are pursuing her and went after her.
She doesn’t trust you or feel comfortable enough to be open how she really feels. It doesn’t matter why or if it’s your fault or hers. What matters is that she doesn’t. But she wants your attention, that’s why she came after you when you sent her away. And then (finally) had sex with you. She’s pulling away afterwards hoping you will chase after her and start simping so she can have you under her thumb and feel good about herself. She also probably doesn’t feel good that she pulled such a desperate move on you.
The bottom line is she is playing games and you don’t need that shit. Step away from the moody, confused girl. Or accept this behavior won’t stop.
Nah its not the same girl.i appreciate ur advice. another thing is am at a university and am that guy who get easily noticed coz i dress fly.everybody looks up to me and my friends so girl knw that if they get into my circle they get sme status ie why most of them wana play games to get me chasing ,trying to keep me around so that they wil brag to their friends,feel gud but coz of game and some tips that am getting from you i never chase.
Then you know you got something to offer. You should chase. Men should do the chasing, but make sure you are chasing someone who’s worth it. Meaning someone who’s not playing games. As Reema likes to say, you should have 100% cooperation.lol I would check out some of his back posts, do a search on his blog on cooperation and see what comes up, cuz I agree with him. You are worth more than mind games due to insecurity. Once a girl sees that (by your actions) if she really wants you and isn’t completely full of shit, she will stop playing games. Trust me, I would know. I only bullshit bullshitters because I know I can get away with it.
ok chasing never works,even whengirls got insecurities they interpret it that u are not achallenge and it killsattraction.another is like chasingmakes u likeothers and desperate butmixing it up give attention hold itback .smone whois worthy is hard to come by cozgirls are alwaysplaying the gameso to win it i have to play it too.
I said chasing, not ‘simping’ or acting desperate.
And this explains your female drama. The only girls that chase guys are insecure, desperate, and needy for attention. So you have these girls that are interested in you, and want your attention and are willing to chase you for it. But then when you try to get closer they play games. Why? Because they probably feel that they are giving you too much, and you are not giving them want they want (to be chased and feel desired). So it’s a push pull- get your attention, and then not feel good that they are doing the chasing. That’s why the new one wants to make it seem like you are the one doing the chasing- her ego. And now that she’s slept with you she has to pull back to save ‘face’ even if it’s for her own ego.
You should initiate and then wait for her to reciprocrate. Honestly, one person shouldn’t be doing most of the work, whether you are courting or in a full on relationship.
It’s okay to let a girl know how you feel. It’s not okay when she takes advantage of it.
Girls play games because they want something but are told they can’t go after it directly. Not only that, they put themselves in more vulnerable positions. So they play games to protect themsleves and their egos.
Men play games too to protect themselves and their egos.
If you want my bitchy advice, please ask away in the comments section or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I will answer in a future blog post.
And don’t forget to add any of YOUR opinions as to what this guy should do to land a non game-playing girl!