This one is for the boys!
EDIT*: Shout out for Social Kenny at “Kenny PUA” for inspiring this post.
rich and successful men and not so rich and successful try to step to me with fear in their hearts and mind. And it makes me laugh. Yes, laugh. Because I know I’m just another girl out there and he is tripping over nothing. I mean I am amazing, but I’m pretty sure I’m not gonna be the love of your life and worth all your bumbling. And even if I was, why would you be afraid of that? You should be happy, confident, and ready to go. Not side stepping, lurking and shifting your eyes when you approach me.
They say never approach beautiful women with fear. They are right. We get approached a lot. We can tell the difference. We hang out with a lot of guys because they want out hang out with us. Yes, we can smell fear and insecurity. It shows in how you talk to us. We don’t like it. Unless of course, our insecurity levels match. Generally, insecurity/ fear is a turn off.
How to avoid this?
Keep it flirty, keep it light.
It doesn’t even matter what you talk about if you keep the tone playful and fun. You could talk about the environment (party/friend you know/store you are both in), you could talk about voting, you could talk about space aliens. Doesn’t matter as long as you keep it playful.
Girls want to have a fun experience, so if you are giving them that, then you are ahead of the game. If we can tell you’re scared or not confident, then you are DOA. And all we’re doing is trying to find a polite way to get rid of you.
And that’s if you’re lucky.
You have to take whatever buildup you have about us out of your head. Sure, we could end up being your true love and best friend for life or even the hottest sex of your life. But more times than not, we are just gonna be that girl you fucked around with for awhile, the girl who cheated on you, the girl who annoyed you and was difficult, the girl who was the doormat, the girl who was convenient for you, the girl who showed you what you really wanted, or the girl you fucked up on.
So calm it down. You need to
a) just think of it as a fun. Girls just want to have fun too! And we love attention. You coming over to give it to us,
especially if no one else is is a big plus in our book.
b) be able to read nonverbal cues! This is very important! If you don’t know them, google that bitch! You have no excuse. Basically if she is looking you in the eye, with a smile, arms unfolded, body and face facing you, you are good. Any variation of that PROCEED WITH CAUTION.
If she is trying to escape, you need to make the exit first! Do so with a joke or interesting line so she will have doubts about wanting to initially reject you. You should probably try to be the first to exit anyway, even if she’s into you. Too much attention, and she gets spoiled and will take it for granted, or starts to think you are needy. You don’t have to follow her around the whole night, just get her phone number and follow up with her later. Just keep it light and fun! You don’t need to know her deepest fears and desires
For effective, flirty texting tips, check out this post by Social Kenny!