Ask a Bitch!

Published September 15, 2012 by bossymoksie
Where I answer your questions about love, life and hairy situations (questions in bold):

Just to give you an update, I am not seeing that guy I had ‘rockin sex’ with anymore. The last time I saw him, he hugged me and told me to have a nice weekend. Which meant we wouldn’t be spending it together. He hasn’t called me since. What the hell happened?

Um, you were just having sex. That’s what happened. Next time you want to get to know someone, I suggest you do that, and that only.

I have a crush on this guy and he is dating someone else. It’s frustrating because we flirt and talk all the time. What does he want from me?

He’s already getting it. You’re attention and swooning over him. How does that make you feel? Not good? Then move on. You are using him for attention too.

I am also dating a married guy. It wasn’t planned, just like that other lady who emailed you. He is miserable and confused. Plus he has kids and he doesn’t want to lose them. I want him to leave his wife so we can be together and be a real couple. How can I make him see that it would be for the best?

Why? Married guys who date outside the marriage want their wedding cake and eat it too. Maybe you weren’t looking to date a married guy but he was looking for someone who would date him on the side.

I went out with this guy I liked ALOT and met at a bar. I told him that I didn’t want to have sex or anything on the first date (he brought it up). He said he was cool with that. We went out and he was still hot and great to talk to. But we did end up making out in his car. Almost to the point where we had sex. I’m kind of upset that it happened because I didn’t want that but he made a move and I went with it because it felt good and I didn’t want to put up a fight since we were having a good time. How do I make sure it doesn’t happen on the next date? I know he will think I will have sex with him!

Because you probably will in order to keep the good date on the good date feeling mode. And he knows it. There’s a difference between not wanting to have sex with a guy because you’re not ready, or because you don’t want him to think you’re a slut. Figure out which one of those it is for you. And when he tries to make a move, fuck the good date vibe and just say no. You will both survive. So will the date. You’ll hear from him again if he really likes you.

I’m in love with a guy who has a girlfriend! I knew him before they met and we dated for a while. We broke up and have been friends since. Sometimes we have slept with each other. And we sometimes still do. Why doesn’t he let me go? Why is he with her and not me?

Because she has more but not much more self-esteem than you. Keep it moving. IF A GUY REALLY WANTS YOU, HE WILL BE WITH YOU AND ONLY YOU. YOU WILL HAVE NO DOUBTS ABOUT IT. HE WILL MAKE IT HAPPEN. He’s not stringing you along because he desperately loves you. He’s stringing you along because you are convenient and there. Otherwise he could give a fuck. I suggest you stop giving a fuck as well.

If you want my bitchy advice, please ask away in the comments section or email me at I will answer in a future blog post.

If you don’t want my bitchy advice, you might get it anyway.

20 comments on “Ask a Bitch!

  • Omg! I love your post. I wanted to add to the lady wanting the married guy to leave his wife. First of all you really cant believe what he says because he is a cheater and highly likely a liar. Most men play the I dont want to lose my kids role. Thats bs! Be careful what you ask for…he might be a new problem once you get him full time

  • Hey, I read this article about a “Secret Society” by Tyler Durden, and I’m skeptical. Do women really cheat with “players in the secret society” and are they really that horny? I know that biologically, women want one guy to get them pregnant (or just have sex with) and another to raise the child (or be in a relationship with). But do women really act on these impulses? I can see a few women doing that, but I have a hard time believing that a majority of women behave in the way that this article describes:

    Could you tell me whether I should fully believe this article, or if I should take it in with a grain of salt?

    • Grain of salt. That sounds like some playa orgy fantasy. That said, I agree with Reema, girls aren’t innocent, we’re human. Sometimes guys like to romanticize us into near saints and sometimes they like to minimize us to whores. The truth is in the middle. (The same with men.) I do think girls would prefer to be with one man. I don’t have issues with girls that sleep around, but I have never met a girl who slept around and was 100% okay with it or okay in her head. Girls do like their attention, and if they can’t get it from their man, they may go elsewhere. And every girl knows the quickest way to get a man’s attention is to open her legs.

    • I like to group similar questions together sometimes. But I am not surprised. This is another reason why I think marriage is bullshit, or that people treat it that way. I’ve known cheaters, I know mistresses, and I get hit on by married men regularly. Why did you get married if you want to be single? I know many many couples who are bored, annoyed and unfulfilled, with or without the cheating. But as you say, as long as you find the right partner and are smart about it, you’ll be fine. In theory.

  • @bossymoskie – you gave some great advice here! Of couse Liz has to add in my unwanted advice, as you and I love dishing it out. It’s fun!
    a) Ladies – you are confusing sex with a relationship. Here are steps to relationship:
    Step 1. Hold out on sex for as long as possible
    Step 2. Review step 1, over and over.

    Sex = sex to a man
    Relationship = no sex until the man has respect and love for you.

    b) men will think you will cheat on them in a relationship if you have sex on the first date. Try waiting at least (3) months, if you really like the guy.

    c) sex – women need sex too, if you do, look for only sex and not a relationship.

    Sex does not = relationship

    Sad, but true.

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