My friend met a dude a few months ago and they instantly hit it off. They talked about marriage and kids and where they wanted to settle down. This was in the first week of dating. A dream, right? Wrong.
Three months later they were done. He slowly stopped paying attention to her and she was phased out of his life.
The sex haze was over. But what about all those future plans of forever and ever? What happened to that?
Lemme tell you something about guys who promise you
shit they think you wanna hear the world in the first few convsersations/meetings. You should runaway as fast as you can. Because they are one of three things:
One: Desperate and needy. Two: Desperate and horny. Three: Desperate and on a deadline to bed the next human girl they come in contact with or else his alien friends will demolish the planet Earth because they are bored and it’s a Friday night.
Let’s address the first two because if the third option is actually true, we’re all just fucked anyway.
One: Desperate and needy. These dudes are emotional vampires. They are always around
…to get on your nerves. You will get all the attention you ever wanted. And even more attention that you never wanted. And then you have to give it in return. That job you have, fuck it. That’s not important. Friends? They don’t need you as much as he does. Hobbies? He wants in to ruin them. Family? You didn’t get along with them anyway right? The world revolves around him and anything you say or do that may suggest otherwise, you know like have a real life of your own, sends him into a depressed end of the world state that only your constant time and attention can heal. Ugh, lets move on. This dude is a waste of time.
Two: They are desperate and horny. These are just guys trying to get laid. Could be players. Could not be. Either way, this is just his way of getting some. His ‘game’ so to speak. What I don’t get is how women buy that a dude wants to spend the rest of his life with you after meeting you for 2 seconds. HE DOESN’T FUCKING KNOW YOU. One of two things are going on.
One: You are arrogant
like I am. So naturally when a dude trips all over himself and wants to spend the rest of his life kissing your ass, you believe it. It’s expected. Except that you aren’t as impressed by it when it happens because it happens so often. You are entitled to it. I’m thinking it’s more because-
Two: Your self-esteem is hurting. It’s hurting so much that you are willing to believe that this total stranger loves and accepts your complete being. He doesn’t even need to know who you really are, he just loves you and thinks you’re the best thing that ever happened. And you want this so badly, that you decide that you love him too, even though you don’t even know his last name or whether or not his hobby is killing puppies in his backyard.
This I don’t get. Because your mom, or some family member equivalent, has been telling you how amazing you are your entire life. But, no you don’t believe her. Too much bias. Your besties have been telling you this since you’ve known them. But fuck those bitches. They’re required to say that. You will only believe how awesome you are if Steve at the bar tells you, 15 minutes after meeting (and after a drink or two). That’s the only time you will believe! Him or the hot guy at Starbucks. That’s it! Anyone else who dares call you amazing or beautiful are lying bitches who deserve to go to hell with their insincere compliments and ulterior motives. You will only believe it if it comes from a guy you are attracted to, because he is completely objective and automatically knowledgable about all things that are you.
I take whatever men say in the beginning with a grain of salt
followed by a good margarita. Instead I pay attention to their behavior. They don’t know me. How could they know how awesome I am? They can’t. They are not Yoda. They are just dudes.
If he is saying he wants to get to know you, but then is trying to push you into the bedroom, then you know what’s up.
I hear guys really are saying in the first few encounters.
GUY TALK DECODER:
Let’s go back to my/your place and watch a movie/have coffee/whatever other bs scenario = Let’s have sex.
I want to get to know you better = I want to get to know you better in bed.
Let’s have kids = Let’s have sex.
Your outfit is amazing = Your outfit would look amazing on my floor while we’re having sex.
You’re amazing = You are amazing but I can tell you don’t know that so I will say it in hopes of sleeping with you, hopefully tonight.
You have pretty eyes = Your tits are great but I’m trying real hard to keep looking in your eye so that you think I am a good guy and want to sleep with me, hopefully tonight.
And for the truly dense:
I want to have sex with you = I want to have sex with you.