Really it’s not. But some of you seem to think so!
Now the hard part for some of you. If you don’t like something, say it. SPEAK UP. No, you don’t want that threesome. No you didn’t think you were seeing other people! No, you don’t feel like watching football with his friends EVERY SUNDAY! No, you don’t like action movies with any Hemsworth brother. No, you don’t want to do his laundry. Ever. Just be honest. He’ll live. You’ll live. A hole won’t open up in the ground and swallow you up! And if he’s cool with you, then the relationship will survive!!! It will be all good. He will pretty much know where you stand and act accordingly. Sometimes it means leaving you. Yes, he may not like what you have to offer. But it’s better to know sooner than later, so you can strut off and find someone who can hang with all your awesomeness. I don’t save my bitchy behavior for later. You will get it up front! You know the terms up front. You are free to go away!!!!! Someone else will bite.
Because really that’s all you bring to the table. YOU. It’s the only thing you can offer someone that NO ONE ELSE CAN. You got that market covered. So deliver. And let someone be your biggest, true fan.
Sticking up for yourself means being alone sometimes, but never forgetting that you are loved, even if it’s only by you. Otherwise you are just a doormat, letting dudes get over so that you can say you have a dude. A dude who will disappoint you and make you hurt, bitter, and more fucked up for future relationships.
The choice is yours.