Lemme just start out by saying that I don’t believe in initiating ‘the talk’ with men. I know it goes against every dating advice article/book/conversation you’ve ever heard. You know which ‘talk’ I’m talking about. The dreaded relationship talk. And I hate ‘the talk’ maybe as much, if not more, than guys do.
If I like a guy and want to know where we are, I act single. Because essentially, that’s what I am. I don’t rub it in his face, but when I’m not waiting around for him or not available on a Friday or Saturday night, they do start to figure out what they really want from me.
I NEVER ask where we are. I hear my friends talking about it and they sound so pathetic and helpless and whiny that I want to break up with them as friends. I get it. You like him. You want him to want you. And only you. But whining about it isn’t going to help. It’s not effective either. And I’ve seen enough to know that a guy will initiate the talk or let you know when he’s ready to ‘go steady’. I really don’t like to do it because A) it feels like nagging and nagging makes me feel like a mousy frumpy nobody wallflower who cries in the corner and is helpless and at the mercy of someone else. I don’t do those feelings, that’s not happening, so I won’t be bringing it up. I’m a rockstar and rockstars don’t chase or beg, they just rock. B) I would rather die a thousand deaths by frizziness then ever admit to the guy that I like him,
before he admits he likes me. Some people call it game playing. Some people call it immature. Some people call it a bitch. Go right on ahead and call it whatever you like because I’m not budging. If I like a guy a lot, I may throw tantrums and pout, I may act and react, but I will never SAY IT OUT LOUD. I WILL NEVER ADMIT IT! I WILL TAKE IT TO MY GRAVE!!!! And if I start feeling like I want more from the relationship, I will LOOK ELSEWHERE, or go to a spa or shopping or anything something to feel better.That information is on a need to know basis and he doesn’t need to know. EVER. Usually they can tell by the way I behave, which is fine, but I just won’t say it.