So, here’s a message a faithful reader sent to me (in bold):
First of all, those are the dumbest fuckin questions I’ve ever heard. The only ones that should ever be asked is “What do you think of this outfit?” but ONLY in a flirting capacity and “What are you doing?” and only because you
want something from him want to show interest in his day.
Unfortunately, girls do ask these questions and you’ve dated them. Before I throw you a pity party, lemme once again remind you of a few dumbass questions we women are subjected to (pre-relationship btw!) like “Do you cook?” “Are you crazy?” or “What does a guy have to do to have sex with you?”. (Abridged answers: Not for you, yes, and lol loser).
But I am here for you.
Which leads me to my second point, as I said in my previous post, nice guys are uncomfortable with being honest which is why they choose to deal with above questions as though they are trying to shoo away an annoying fly. You do this because you are
being a pussy uncomfortable about how you really think and feel. And if she’s not dense, she will sense your insincerity. (Even if she doesn’t admit it to herself or call you out on it). And now look, you all mad and frustrated about the situation.
I can already hear you saying that this wouldn’t work in every scenario. Check it out:
Her: “Does this dress make my butt look too big?”
You: “Why are you being insecure about your ass? You’re amazing.”
Then you kiss her, hard.
Her: You didn’t answer my question, though. I really need to know cuz blah blah blah blah blah…
You: Your ass looks amazing to me.
Bonus! Spontaneous sex.
Her: “Honey which is more important to you, me or your car?”
You: “Why are you being insecure about our relationship? You’re amazing.” (Makes kissing noises.)
Her: What is that noise?
You: Me making sweet, sweet love to you on the phone because I can’t wait to see you and do this in person.
Honesty plus my advice:
Her: “What are you doing?”
You: “Why are you being insecure about my actions? You’re amazing. Also, I am watching porn.”
Reaction variant: from rolling her eyes and leaving you to it to joining you.
PS- If you’re not allowed to be honest with her, she’s not THAT amazing.