Last night I went out with a dude. The date was okay. When the check came for our meal, he asked if I was a modern woman (probably due to my cooking rant the day before) and if I paid for dates. Um, noooooooo. Call me a hypocrite (but never to my face or I may cut you) but dudes should pay.
Once upon a time I was young and naive enough to think bein independent meant paying my own way on dates (and other occasions, like bills). I didn’t wanna owe nobody nuthin. I was independent. I was fierce. I was in control. I was gonna say and do whatever I wanted and throw my change cash in yo face! I was dumb.
Because I realized I could still talk smack, hang up the phone on you, and tell you to suck it (in more ways than one) whether dudes paid for the dates (and miscellaneous) or not. Ha! Here’s why you should pay (besides me knowing that I don’t have to). You have to prove to me, and the whole female population, that you can take care of me before I can even think of taking care of you in whatever way I see fit. You can blame biology (like you like to do when explaining your whorish tendencies). When the men were hunters, they brought back a dead beast to their womenz to make sure they ate. That’s right. You take care of us. Except now it’s cash instead of a carcass. All for the pleasure of my lovely presence which may or may not include throwing a lamp at you. Or kicking you.
Doesn’t matter that I may or may not have my own money. Society has already assumed that you’re the main provider and has taken care of you. That’s why men make more than women on the dollar. Why they get hook-ups and discounts at car dealerships, mechanics, dry cleaners, constructions, and lawn care. Because you need that money to get laid! To pay for dates (or hookers, whatever your desperation fancy is.)
So to all my independent ladies, the next time you’re on that date, just know it’s the man’s DUTY to pay for it. And for you to take it and enjoy and use your money to overpay getting your car fixed.