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I was on a second date with a girl I like. We went to have coffee because we didn’t want to go home and we sat outside. She was shivering so I offered her my jacket. She said no at first but eventually accepted my jacket. She asked me to hold her purse while she put it on and I told her no. She was surprised and asked if I was into machismo. I’m not I just think holding a girl’s purse is emasculating. She’s not my wife or anything. We talked about it (because she was so upset about it) and she admitted that she was more upset that I told her no more than anything. I helped her put my jacket on while she held her own purse. Was I being rude or was I standing up for my manhood?
I feel pretty?
A little of both. I guess we all have our boundaries that need to be set early on in a relationship no matter how petty. It’s good that you stuck to what’s comfortable for you. But this was more of a logistical favor rather than putting your balls in a blender. Now, if she had asked you to hold her purse while walking two feet behind her and her friends as they shopped, then that would be another story. In the end, if you landed a third date with her, then it doesn’t matter, does it?
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I wouldn’t say he was standing up for his manhood. He already offered her his jacket. In her mind, she figured he was playing the gentleman role. He should have just held her purse and continued to close the deal.
He did over react imo. But I think it’s better to follow your own boundaries than do something you’re uncomfortable with because you’re afraid of scaring off your date. Maybe he senses he went overboard and that’s why he asked? He also didn’t close the deal that night. There is a third date though.
Yeah I agree with the boundaries part. Offering your jacket and holding her purse is the same thing. Third date? That should be interesting
This is kind of ridiculous. She asked him to hold it because evolution didn’t bless her with a third arm. If that’s been me, I’d have held it and probably make a joke like “here have it back, I don’t think it’s my colour”
yuck. feel free to correct my typo. I spotted it too late!
gotcha. It happens to everyone!
lol at the third arm. He was a bit touchy. They are still together though so she seems ok with it!